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What kind of life do you want to live in 2016?
Have you set a goal? An intention? Or chosen a keyword to guide you?
The concept of setting New Year's Resolutions is not that new. In fact it has been around since the Babylonians pledged to return borrowed objects and repay their debts at the start of each year, and the Romans started each new year by making a vow to the god Janus.
Each year for the past 12 years I have written a gratitude letter that maps out all the things I'd like to have happen each year. Each year I get better at sticking to those plans and manifesting many of the things I desire to have happen.
Most people however say that their resolutions only last about 7 days, so why is it that sticking to something that matters to you so hard to achieve?
What is it that separates the resolute minority who stick to them from the majority of fallen masses?
Is it that you've set yourself unrealistic goals - maybe you're a size 16 and you've set a goal to be a size six in 3 months, can you really make that happen? Your goals need to be achievable in the time given.
Is it just a matter of willpower or are other magical, mystical powers at work?
Or could just be that you're not working with your own psychology and are setting yourself up for failure from the beginning?
Perhaps it's a combination of all of the above. Here's three ways to work with your mindset and stick to your new year goals.
1 - Who you are being is more important than doing.
Achieving your goals begins with who you are being. Unfortunately most people start the process with want they want to have, then what they have to do to get it, when really they should begin with who they are being. And while strategy (what you will do) and results (what you will have) are of value, you'll get no where without the right Mindset (who you are being).
2 - What you think about you bring about
Of the 60,000 thoughts we have each day researchers have found that 80 percent of the thoughts were the same thoughts we had yesterday so if you want to achieve new goals and become someone new you have to become aware of the thoughts you are having. In particular you can become aware of the thoughts you have about yourself. What is your internal dialogue saying to you? How many times during the day do you beat yourself up? We tend to think this random chatter in our head is just that, random. We also pass it off as insignificant, however each time you bash yourself internally it creates an emotion within you. Thoughts have energy. Scientists can measure a thought. It has weight. It has vibration and it has an electrical current. As does emotion. So, when your mind feeds your spirit these negative thoughts it ignites emotions, whether it be sadness, despair, fear, or even joy, it creates an energy. This vibration also radiates outward and creates your experience with others.
The best way to combat the negative dialogue is with positive affirmations. Affirmations are one to the most effective tools in your self care arsenal. This is the daily affirmation I have on my mirror at home "I am loveable, valuable and unique." - you are welcome to borrow it or make your own!
3 - Whatever is familiar becomes your success thermostat's set point.
If you’ve read any of the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky, you already know about the “Happiness Set Point” but, if you haven’t, take note. About 40 per cent of anyone’s happiness is governed by the “happiness set point” which involves intentional activity—what we do for ourselves. The real problem is that most of us aren’t focusing on either the right things or approaches that might make us happier. So as you set your new year's goals this year consider where your success thermostat is for each goal. If you're not conscious, your thermostat will naturally return to it's former set point. So if you want to achieve more you have to raise the temperature on your thermostat and then make that feel familiar, it needs to become your new and permanent set point, doing so will help your new formed habits stick and help you achieve more.
What one thing will you do differently this year to make your new year's goals a success? Share your thoughts in the comments below, I'd love to know.